Our New Born Baby

God is always good to us, with out any doubt, He is giving us a new healthy baby boy we called him Henry he was born in normal delivery May 7, 2009 @ exactly 11:30 AM weighing 2.7 kg

Second Opinion Really Counts!

During the Pregnancy of my wife to our fourth child Benjamin was a bit difficult since we just move to a new town, and pretty much we don't know about the nearby hospitals so we have to look around and we found this one place which is very new, so we decide to have a regular prenatal there. On the expected date of Terumi (my wife's name) we did last ultra sound for the baby to make it sure everything is okay, but to our surprised we are told by her Doctor that she have to deliver the baby by Cesarean, and we are shock! I asked the doctor what is the reason? then she explained a lengthy explanations that she can only understand. So I told her I need a second Opinion, and she said yes it is your right to do so.

So we went to another hospital for the new ultrasound to confirmed the finding of the first one, and again, to our surprise other doctor told us that the baby is fine and she can deliver in natural birth. after we went home, one of our neighbor told us about a well known midwife who just came back from abroad she said that this person really good nurse and midwife, so we went to her clinic and we found out that she does home service and she asked my wife if she is okay with her to give birth at home, and she said its okay with me without any worry on her face. And then I realized that last experienced she had in the hospital her in the Philippines was not pleasant because during her labor the doctor don't allow me to be with her, unlike in the U.S. I was with her all the time. So we both decided that Terumi san will give birth in the house and it was a wonderful the whole thing went smooth and quick while my Mother is with us. So that is the reason why we do it at home

Were Having a new Baby!

Just yesterday my wife Terumi san give birth to our 5th child we name him Henry since that is the name that his brothers and sister want. He weight 2.7 Kg. He was born at exactly 11:30 AM May 7, 2009 Philippines time, although this is our fifth child but the experience is always amazing. I mean amazing how a new life is unfolding right in front of me, since I'm with my wife during the whole process. Oh by the way before I forget she give birth not in the hospital but in our own home, Some people is wondering why in the home? we have reason for that, and maybe I can write another article for that matter. Henry is born healthy and his brother and sister cannot stop looking at him and even want him to carry, I am thankful for all the people who pray for us and being there, even just by the text they extend their support, I'm very grateful to my wife for being brave and strong despite of the pain that she has to endure and most of all I give all the thanks to our Heavenly Father who always with us hhhhmmmmm God is Good all the time, no doubt for that

My Wife Did a Better Choice

Me and my wife Terumi were blending two families from different culture but we had established certain rules for the children. One rule was that there is no internet games during school days.

One day Terumi came home from work to find me and my kids, playing together in front of the computer. I saw she was infuriated. but rather yelling at me. She called me papa can you come here please!

In the heat of a discussion, Its easy for us to say these firing words, "If you ever … then I'll …" (fill in the blanks). Or maybe one will say, "Don't you ever say (or do) that again or we have big problem." We rarely resolve anything when one or both partners act out of a threatening tune of our voice.

Terumi did Better Choice: She succeed by pulling me aside and simply asking for clarification. Did I forget? Did I change my mind? But the fact that I feel how she felt, and that very moment the only thing I can say is "Sorry Mama" You felt being betrayed by what I did, It will never happen again.... and I saw her face lighten up, and I give her a tight hug as we embrace each other

Dealing with Childrens Uniqueness

Uniqueness of my children are the most rewarding thing that I can treasure always, many times I listen to a lots of parents saying that they love there sons and daughter equally, but I think, you can only provide their material needs equally, but the LOVE you have to deal it uniquely.

One of the typical example, when we come back from shopping for groceries, we always brought something for the kids, even simple things or toys, and of course since we have four kids, we always bought same toy for everyone. One thing that I notice, every time we arrive, kids raced to get the toys. I notice several different expression of love language, from my eldest which is 9 years old, he will jump up and down with joy while my second son, he will smile and say thanks and he will give you a big hug. My daughter which is 7 years old, after she gets the toy, she just want to tell you what is going on for her day. My youngest who is 4 I'm still in the process of knowing what kind of language he will express. With this experience I can say that we have a lot of things to learn from every child and so with our partners in life.

Let's be love language fluent

1. Words of Affirmation
Verbal expressions of love, gratitude, agreement, and appreciation can go a long way for someone whose primary love language is “Words of Affirmation.” According to FiveLoveLanguages.com, “Simple statements, such as, ‘You look great in that suit,’ are sometimes all a person needs to hear to feel loved.” The key here is that the person feels loved through verbal expression. To "affirm” is to confirm truth. Every time you validate your partner’s feelings, back them up in their stance, encourage or tell them how much you love and value them, you are speaking their love language.

If you aren’t great at giving compliments, look for qualities in your partner that you admire most. For example, if math isn’t your area of expertise, but your partner is a whiz, try saying something like, “It’s amazing how great you are with people. I didn't know you have such talent! ” It may seem obvious, but for someone who values words of affirmation, you are speaking directly to their heart. Written words work just as well, so leaving a little love in the form of a note, letter, text message or email can warm their heart.

A less obvious approach is by speaking positively about them when they is not present. Words have a funny way of getting around, so hearing how highly someone was praised through a third party can feel especially encouraging.

If words of affirmation is the love language of the man in your life, he will be sensitive to verbal criticism, so go easy on the fighting words.

to be continued...

How fluent are you In Love Languages?

Knowing which of the five love languages your partner responds to, be fluent. You could be pouring on the verbal compliments, but if physical touch is the language they best understand, they may feel neglected, while you feel irritated.